The Candy Police

It was all Janice could do not to scream. Her seven-year-old daughter, Sophie, had just asked, “Mom, can I have some candy?” “Not right now, it’s too close to dinner,” Janice replied. “Why NOT?!” Sophie shrieked. “You just don’t love me!” (and the tantrum began) This kind of thing was happening more and more.  Sophie […]

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Salad vs. Garbage

What’s the difference between salad and garbage? Time! If you have ever eaten part of a salad, then gone back to finish it the next day, you know what I mean.  Given enough time, it wilts, it spoils, and the next thing you know, it’s garbage. That can and does happen in our relationships, too. […]

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Put Down Your Fancy Sword

One of the many reasons “couple’s work” DOESN’T work is because it inevitably turns into a “blame & sides” show, with more scorekeeping than the World Series. Blame is classic demand relationship, and because we’ve all grown up surrounded by nothing but demand relationship, it’s all we know until we find Relationship Development®. Demand relationship […]

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But my partner IS….

Imagine a six-year-old kid asks his parents if he can have a piece of candy an hour before dinner, and gets the standard answer of “No, you’ll spoil your appetite.” But this kid really wants that piece of candy, so when his parents aren’t paying attention, he sneaks into the kitchen, opens the candy drawer […]

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Put The Rope Down

“If I’m being really brutally honest, yes,” our student admitted, after I asked her if she was white-knuckle-gripping the idea of staying home and homeschooling her son. Earlier in their relationship, they’d reached an agreement: Her husband would be responsible for their livelihood, and she would stay home with their son, and homeschool him. But […]

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