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How often do you say YES!

Stacey Martino

yesThis week was life changing for Paul and I…and the ripple effect from this week gives me chills when I imagine it!

What happened?

On Tuesday, Paul and I went up to Connecticut to strategize and plan with our friends and mentors Fabienne and Derek Fredrickson. It wasn’t the first time we’ve been there.

So, why was this day different than all other days?

A few days after Valentine’s Day, Paul and I began to lay out our plan for the rest of 2014 and how we were going to serve in an even bigger way, help even more people than ever, give even more than we have already, stretch ourselves, live our purpose and have a total blast doing it!

As part of our plan for 2014, Paul and I are creating something that is a HUGE dream of ours to create and it’s something we’ve never created before! For now, let’s just call it “The Big Thing.”

I remember the moment vividly. As I asked myself the question, “how are we going to create this Big Thing in the way that creates the greatest good for the most people?” I immediately got the download “Maybe you should strategize this with Fabienne and Derek.”  And of course, I shook that off, and continued ahead.

The next time we started working on the plans for the Big Thing, the download came again, like a quick thought or knowing or voice…. “Work with Derek and Fabienne on this, they’ve done this Big Thing already. In fact, it was their idea for YOU to do the Big Thing.”

So I asked Paul…“Hmmmm, babe, I keep getting the “download” like maybe we should talk to Fabienne and Derek about working with them to create the strategy and planning for the Big Thing?”

Here’s the thing, I’m a MODELER! Yeah, I’m just gonna totally make up that word – it works, so I’m stickin’ with it!

After nearly two decades of training with Tony Robbins I have learned the science of MODELING. No, not posing for pictures!  Modeling – Decide your outcome, find someone who has already successfully achieved your outcome and is happily teaching others how to achieve that outcome with repeatable success and model what they are doing so you get the same outcome!


When I teach this to my private clients, I use the Mountain metaphor. There’s always going to be someone who’s further up your mountain than you are. They may not be at the TOP of that mountain yet, but they’ve already successfully navigated the part you are trying to climb right now! So let them throw down a rope to you and PULL you right up!

I’m a love and passion expert! But if no one knows about me, how can I serve people and live my purpose? I’m not a “client attraction” expert. Fabienne and Derek are further up our mountain. That’s why we work with the Fredricksons.  Because they throw the rope down and pull us up!

Sounds so easy right!  If it was that easy, everyone would be at the top of their mountain darling!

What’s required in order to get that rope and hoist yourself to your next level??

THE YES! It all comes back to the YES!

The “YES POINT” is where you either elevate yourself up to the next level on your mountain or… NOT!

So, we talked to Fabienne and Derek and, as always, they are so gracious and incredibly supportive and wildly passionate about us getting our message out there to serve as many people as we can possibly reach! And so they offered us… the ROPE to pull us up the mountain!

Here’s a secret for you….Your ROPE will always come to you in the form of an OPPORTUNITY! In this case, a private VIP day with Fabienne and Derek at their home, just the four of us to strategize and plan our Big Thing!

So Paul and I are there, looking at the “rope” that Fabienne and Derek tossed down to us. It’s a solid rope. I have no doubt about the rope. I know that Fabienne and Derek used this rope to get to where they are on the mountain. I watched them do it and I know “the rope” works!

BUT…..I’ve never climbed that part of the mountain. I’ve never used “that rope.” What if I say YES, and it turns out that “the rope” only works for other people and NOT ME? What if I miss my chance to do something else? Hey, maybe there’s an elevator on this mountain, did anyone check, you don’t know, it could be? There’s a lot of “unknowns” about taking that rope.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.

FAITH is saying YES to the opportunity when you have no certainty of the outcome!

We KNOW this mountain. We KNOW they are MUCH farther up the mountain. We watched them go successfully. We’ve watched them take other people successfully up this mountain. We are going up the freakin’ mountain! These are our guides. We are takin’ that rope!

We said YES!

When you take decisive action and SAY YES to the right opportunity in FAITH several things happen:

  1. Magic happens! It’s like the universe gets the message “Oh, they’re serious about this!” and starts to line up the resources and next steps that you need to achieve your outcome. You don’t have to believe me…try it for yourself!
  2. You instantly realize that the only REAL uncertainty would have been the RISK in trying to figure out how to scale that mountain on your own WITHOUT a rope and not succeeding or worse, taking a big fall! (that’s a HUGE one…read that again!)
  3. Expert Guidance combined with Massive Action combined with Big Intention and the Helping Hands of the universe make you UNSTOPPABLE!

It all comes back to the YES!

It is VERY easy to look at that opportunity, look at that ROPE, feel the uncertainty of the outcome, know that you have never navigated that part of your mountain before and say NO! Nu-uh. Not now. I can’t. I don’t have the time. I can’t afford that rope. Who am I to take that rope, someone else will be better for this rope. What if I take the rope and I leave everyone behind on the mountain, they won’t like me anymore. No, I’m going to climb this myself and figure it out, the rope isn’t for me. I don’t even need to climb that high on this mountain anyway, I’m fine right here, that’s too high for me anyway.

Any of this sounding familiar to you?

Take a look DOWN your mountain. Do you remember some of the leaps and ropes that got you to where you are now? Did some of those work out for you?

“It’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped” – Anthony Robbins

That’s why it all comes back to the YES!

No is SO easy. But you already know where that gets you.

So, I ask you…How often do you SAY YES?!?!

Look at anyone you know who is creating a magnificent life for themselves and look at when they say YES! You will see!

It may “look” easy to you because you just SEE them grab that rope and shoot up the mountain. You don’t get to see the struggle, the fear, the faith and the YES MOMENT! But it happened.

What is it that you want? What’s up your mountain? Look UP! Who is farther up your mountain? Have they already successfully navigated to where you want to go next? Are they successfully teaching others to do the same in a way that is repeatable with outstanding results? Are they offering you the ROPE to pull you up??


Post a comment below with your YES moment! I can’t wait to hear about it!

Sending love,


p.s. I absolutely LOVE Bishop TD Jakes! I’m a huge fan and he is a big mentor for me. This video is absolutely essential. Please watch!