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Disney Redefines “True Love” in the Greatest Plot Twist of All Time…Lessons from Frozen (Part Two)

Stacey Martino


In last week’s article about Frozen we talked about letting your uniqueness shine through! Letting it GO! In today’s article, we are going to talk about “True Love” and how Disney pulled off the greatest PLOT TWIST of all time!

I know you’ve seen the movie Frozen (or heard it 1,000 times) but have you ever viewed it from THIS lens?

There are SO many lessons to teach from in this film.  Today, I’m going for it…the BIG ONE!

Look, I ADORE Disney! But let’s be honest, for decades now Disney has been portraying a very poor representation of “true love”! Between Disney and Barbie, the last few decades have really not provided the best role models for young people, particularly young girls.

Every Disney movie seems to end with a very young (teenage) girl becoming a Princess by marrying a Prince that she barely knows.  (insert Cinderella, Little Mermaid, Beauty and the Beast, Snow White, etc).

The LESSON that Disney has been teaching girls for decades:  True Love is something that a girl GETS from a boy…if she gets picked! Oy!

That’s one of the reasons that, prior to the release of Frozen, the movie Enchanted was my favorite Disney film.  In Enchanted, McDreamy (Patrick Dempsey) debunks the whole fall in love and propose on the same day garbage when he says “you’re going to marry a guy after ONE DAY!!” YES! That’s PROGRESS Disney!

But in FROZEN…they completely shatter this entire dynamic and they NAILED IT!!

It’s so subtle, but it’s SO AMAZING!  Ok, let’s dive in!

When Ana is struck in the heart by Elsa’s ICY POWERS, the trolls tell Kristoff that only an act of TRUE LOVE can save her.

So, what do they do?  In true Disney old-school style, they rush Ana home to her “I just met you 15 minutes ago” fiancé Hans so he can kiss her…DUH!

The shear genius of Disney to use their OWN predictable story line to set us up for the greatest PLOT TWIST ever to appear in a Disney film!  (SPOILER ALERT…if you haven’t seen FROZEN…maybe don’t read this)

They rush her back to Hans, and in a brilliant twist, Ana discovers that Hans does NOT love her! He was conning her in order to marry her, become King and kill her and her sister for the Kingdom!


Did Disney just teach my little girl that if you fall in love and get engaged in one day, it’s possible this guy is a creep and out to deceive you??? And at the same time, teach little girls everywhere what the IMMATURE Masculine looks like?!


Freakin’ Thank You Disney!

It’s like they shattered every Disney’s Princesses royal mirror all at once…I could hear the sounds of magic mirrors cracking all over Far-Far-Away!!!

BRILLIANT!!!  And it gets even better!!!!!!

So now what?? No Prince!

What does one do when an act of true love is required and there’s NO man???

Will Ana run back to Kristoff? Surely she must love him instead?!  Just when we think that is what is coming next, Disney deals the final BLOW.

And this, in my heart, is the greatest Disney lesson on film to date!

Ana sees that her sister is in danger; the very same sister who “apparently” struck her with the ICY heart that’s killing her.  And in an instant, she makes an incredible choice

“It’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Anthony Robbins

Ana stays vulnerable; she loves her sister even though her sister hurt her.  She GIVES HER LOVE in a real act of TRUE LOVE.

Ana throws herself in front of her sister’s body to sacrifice her own life to save her sister.

And in that split second moment, Disney re-writes decades of misguided role models by… flipping the switch on LOVE!


even when you’ve been hurt and even when you are scared!

Ana’s act of true love was NOT someone ELSE kissing HER…it was HER GIVING HER LOVE!!!!


Holy crap on a cracker! And just like that, Disney NAILS the greatest love lesson on earth!

True Love is Something You GIVE Freely, NOT Something You Give to GET!

If you want  true love in your intimate relationship, if you want to create an UNSHAKABLE LOVE, if you want to be #1 in your partner’s world, if you want to be loved for all the parts of yourself (the good parts and the parts you fear are unlovable too), then it begins with GIVING YOUR LOVE FREELY.

But that’s not the reality for most people today.  Most people today are MEASURERS.  Always measuring what you are getting back in exchange for what you are giving.  How else would you know if you have a 50/50 relationship (YUCK!) unless you were measuring to be sure things are even?!  No judgment.  I’m a former gold metal score keeper myself!

Measuring isn’t GIVING!


Be a GIVER! Put the measuring stick away…and just give!!

Give when you’re scared, give when it hurts, give when you’ve been hurt…Like Ana!  That’s True Love!

It’s not the easy road and it’s not safe.

As my friend and mentor Cloe Madanes once said, “If you want safe love, get a puppy.”

If you want true love, unshakable love and unconditional love….GIVE YOUR LOVE FREELY!

And just like that Disney has RESET the hands of time! True love is when you GIVE YOUR LOVE FREELY!  It’s not something you barter for and it’s not something you wait for someone to give you!

Go love my sweetie! Go GIVE your love freely!  And like Elsa, perhaps your great life lesson will be to discover that LOVE will THAW THE FREEZE!  More on that lesson…next week! 😉

Sending love,

Former Ice Princess…turned Sunshine!

p.s. In next week’s article, Part Three of this series, I will talk about how LOVE is the energy that can thaw the freeze. If you have been stuck in your relationship…you will want to read next week’s article!

*All rights to Frozen, the video, and movie content are owned by Disney.