Stacey Martino speaks at Client Attraction Mindset Event
It was an honor to speak at the Client Attraction Mindset Event last year about how to get your partner to support you in your business! I caused quite a stir that day…many entrepreneurs shared with me that my words shifted them permanently and their relationships have changed since!
So, of course, I was honored when my mentors and friends Fabienne & Derek Fredrickson of ClientAttraction.com asked me to write another guest blog for their site, speaking directly to the solution to the challenge that so many entrepreneurs face… how to get your partner to support you in your business.
While this article was geared towards getting your partner’s full support in your business, this strategy applies to whatever area of your life you want your partner’s support in! I have spoken for parenting coaches who wanted to know how their clients can get their partner’s support in parenting. It’s the same solution!
I’m thrilled to share this article with you here today!
As a love and passion expert, who primarily serves entrepreneurs and coaches, I get asked the following question a lot. “Stacey, I want to grow my business, but my partner isn’t on board! What can I do to get him/her to support me in my business?”
My answer is always the same, “Without coaching or training, no human on earth will 100% support something they are also competing with for your time, attention and priority.”
So here’s my advice; it starts with you. At Love and Passion Coach, I empower people to transform their intimate relationships without their partner needing to participate. The same can be done when it comes to getting your partner’s support with your business. It begins with a raw and vulnerable conversation that you have not been willing to have yet.
It goes something like this…
“You are the most important thing in my world, not my business, not this program (or whatever you want to do), not my parents, not even the kids; only you. Everything begins and ends with you. And whatever you want, is what I want. Your dreams are my dreams too. And I’m scared and I need you. Right now this is what I really need (to grow my business) and I want to talk to you about it. But I absolutely want you to know that no matter what, it will never change the fact that you come first for me, always. My intention is that no matter what we decide to do together, you are my number one. And whatever we decide to do together, that’s what I will do, because you are first for me!”
When you speak these words from your heart and really mean them and when your partner truly feels what you’re saying, it shifts everything. You may think it could take months for them to feel that but it can actually happen in a moment!
When you truly come from this space, your partner will no longer feel that they are COMPETING with your business for your time, attention and priority. That’s when they will give you the support you desire.
Once you experience your partner’s support in your business, you will see that the greatest gift of having their support is NOT actually that you get to DO whatever it is that you want to DO in your business. The greatest gift of your partner’s support in your business, is that you get to lean on them, confide in them, celebrate with them, cry to them, collaborate with them and experience your business with them!
The purpose of relationships is to magnify the human experience and live as the best version of yourself. If you have not been able to SHARE your business with your partner, not only have you been taking everything on yourself, which is exhausting, but you are missing out on sharing the experience of your business with the most important person in your life!
You are an entrepreneur.. Your business is not exactly “separate” from you. If you have been operating your business separately from your partner, you are creating separation between the two of you that is too risky…for both your relationship and your business!
I’m not saying that your partner has to work IN your business with you. You can include your partner in your business simply by sharing it with them authentically.
You may not have been willing to “share” your business with them before because you FELT their resistance, so you kept your business to yourself. But their resistance isn’t that they don’t CARE or aren’t interested. Their resistance is that they feel they are lower on your list than your business, so they don’t want “that business” getting any more attention.
Until you can proudly say, with authenticity, integrity and love, that your partner IS your number one, then you cannot expect your partner’s 100% support for your business.
I know you love your partner. Operationally, where has your partner been on your list? Day to day, how are you living? Are you living that your partner is number one? Or is it the kids? Or your business? Or your folks? If I asked your partner right now, where would THEY say they fall on your list? Number one? Number two? Number 5?
Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s very rare to organically live putting your partner first. No one ever taught us to do that. But until your partner feels that they are number one, you will not get the support you want for your business, and your business can only grow so much without your partner’s support! So you must start here!
Make your partner your number one and make sure they feel it! Sometimes this can be easier said than done. If this is a struggle for you, please get our free audio program for the tools and strategies that you need to quickly and easily create this in your intimate relationship.
Once you transform your intimate relationship so that you are putting your partner first and authentically sharing your business with them… THEN your business will truly have NO LIMITS! And as a nice side bonus, you will find that the PASSION comes back to your relationship in a BIG way!!!
p.s. Paul and I are raving fans of Fabienne & Derek Fredrickson of ClientAttraction.com! Fabienne and Derek have helped us to get out there and serve in a massive way and our results with them have been phenomenal! Paul and I are going to a LIVE half day event with Fabienne where she will be teaching her masterful system for being wealthy and spiritual by Monetizing Your Message! If you want to come with us, we can bring you as our guest!! In fact, she’s going to 6 cities with this event and we can send you to any of them!! Get the details here and we will see you there!!