Love Will Thaw the Freeze…Frozen part three!

heartinsnowWow! I cannot believe the number of people who have approached me to talk about FROZEN! This film has really made an impact! As well it should! Not only is it groundbreaking…but it resonates!

In that monumental moment when Ana throws herself in front of her sister’s body to sacrifice her own life to save her sister, Disney re-writes decades of misguided (well-intentioned) role models by flipping the switch on LOVE.

An act of TRUE LOVE happens when YOU GIVE YOUR LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY…even when you’ve been hurt and even when you are scared!!!!! – Stacey Martino

The greatest lesson in love…EVER!

TRUE LOVE is when you GIVE YOUR LOVE FREELY…it’s not the love you give to get!

And yet, most of us walk around protecting ourselves every day from getting hurt by love!  Like the well-meaning TROLLS who warned Elsa to “conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know”, many of our well-intentioned TROLLS/GUIDES warned us to protect ourselves from the PAIN of relationship.

At times, it was something they out-right told us… like “Don’t rely on any man” or “love doesn’t last”.

Other times it was that the well-intentioned TROLLS in our lives lived THEIR lives as WARNINGS for us, not examples.  We didn’t want to experience the pain that we saw them go through so we VOWED to ourselves to NEVER let that happen to us…and we lived the opposite life.

It’s so interesting to me that when we live in-defiance of the “example” in our life…that “example” still controls us. 

But, like Elsa, what if they were wrong?

What if protecting yourself from the HURT of LOVE is not the goal? What if your whole life you have been running in the opposite direction of what you truly want?

You are protecting yourself from getting hurt by love, but TRUE LOVE happens when you GIVE YOUR LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY!

When you put up walls to protect yourself from hurt…you shut the good out with the bad!  So you are protecting yourself from feeling TRUE LOVE!

What if, like Ana, even when you were scared of getting hurt, you stayed OPEN and LOVED anyway???

Here’s the secret sweetie.  You can’t prevent the hurt anyway, it doesn’t work that way! But when you CLOSE, you prevent yourself from feeling the LOVE that YOU were going to GIVE in that moment!  Your TRUE LOVE!  You miss it when you CLOSE!

Like Ana, when you stay open and GIVE your love freely, even if you get hurt…the LOVE you feel from the love you GIVE makes the hurt tolerable in that moment!  But if you CLOSE and you never give your love…and you feel the hurt anyway…that’s what CRUSHED feels like!

No one can take away the feeling of LOVE that you get to feel when you GIVE your love! ONLY YOU can take that away from yourself!

If you want true love my darling, like Glenda the good witch tells Dorothy…the power was within you the whole time!  GIVE YOUR LOVE…even when you are scared, even when you might get hurt…STAY OPEN and GIVE YOUR LOVE FREELY!

That’s living fully!  That’s passionate!

Then you will learn the ultimate lesson that Elsa learns in the last moment of the movie when, inspired by her sister, she finally gets her answer….LOVE WILL THAW THE FREEZE!

LOVE my darling…it melts all pain!

GIVE YOUR LOVE…stop waiting to GET IT and GO GIVE IT!

Sending love,

Stacey
Former Ice Princess turned Sunshine! (LOVE thawed my freeze!)